My husband and I got married back in October. To this day, people are still talking about my wedding playlist and asking how we came up with such an eclectic assortment. I didn’t want the norm, I can tell you that much. I didn’t want to be a cookie cutter bride with everything looking like I bought it at Michaels or Hobby Lobby. In fact, I made the majority of my centerpieces. I had a Disney themed wedding, each table with a different Disney movie or park attraction theme. I had no bridesmaids or groomsmen but a single flower girl who wore a sweet simple pink dress and a floral and wire Mickey ear headband that I had made. My husband’s tie clip had a hidden Mickey on it. My husband was a very sweet sport about it, considering all little girls start planning their wedding from childhood and we all have a vision of what we want. As long as we took our honeymoon at the beach, anything for the wedding was free game.
The “Sit Around and Wait” Music
I am not one of those people who is going to make people sit for God knows how long listening to classical music. A boring sonata or two may have given people the impression that this was an uptight, elegant affair. What better way to give people a glimpse into the theme and suck them in than having this music that’s normally boring and stuffy turn into music that played on my theme? I opted to have classic Disney tunes on piano play.
My father in law walked my husband’s stepmother in, my nephew walked my mother and my mother in law in to “When You Wish Upon a Star”. At the beginning of all Disney movies, they play a rif from this song while you see the Tinkerbell and Cinderella’s Castle. I knew it was perfect and sweet and went along with the theme.
Flower Girl Processional
I wanted my flower girl to have a sweet special moment to herself. I had her walk down the aisle to an instrumental version of “Somewhere Over the Rainbow”. Why you may ask? This one had special meaning to me and my husband. One of my favorite movies of all time is The Wizard of Oz. When my husband officially asked me to be his girlfriend, he took me out to dinner at one of the fanciest restaurants in all of Charleston. When we went home, we cuddled up and watched The Wizard of Oz and during the movie, he officially asked me to be his girlfriend (aaaawwwwwww!!!!!) So it was very important to me to have this song in our wedding.
The Bride Processional
I’ve never been one to conform to traditional in what people would probably expect. I was not walking down to the damn wedding march or Cannon D. Nope, not me. I’ve been to too many weddings where that has been the song of choice and the majority of them have ended up with people being miserable or just ended. I chose to go with a song, written by my first love George Harrison, that has often been said to be “the most romantic song a man could sing to a woman” and man do I agree! I didn’t want words sang though as I walked down the aisle because what happens if I start singing??? What happens if I end on a weird part of the song??? We didn’t do a rehearsal so I wasn’t chancing weird things happening. Instead what I got was a sweet moment with me and my dad. I tried not to cry, and I didn’t get teary eyed until he gave me away and gave my hand a firm squeeze before he sat down (and QUE the waterworks now as I write this!)
The Recessional Music
There’s that “send off” moment when everything is said and done and you’re now legally wed and you just need a song that ‘gets’ it. This song for me was “Cupid” by Sam Cooke. I remember watching Innerspace when I was younger and having such a crush on Dennis Quaid (don’t act like you didn’t for a minute either). He was so handsome, and the moment this song starts playing and his towel gets caught in the cab door and he’s left to stand in the middle of the road naked while his true love leaves :::sigh::: but I feel like this song kind of resonated with me and my husband. When we met, I wasn’t looking for a relationship and I was very naive on picking up on those “Hey, I really like you” signs he was laying down. I almost feel like he said a little prayer to Cupid for me to get it.
Announcing the Bridal Party
Yeah, I went a little hipster I quess with this. “Uptown Funk” by Mark Ronson and Bruno Mars is just FUN and it’s like “Hell YEAH” we’re about to have a great time!!!! That and the fact that our parents are in their 50’s-70’s made it that much more hilarious on my part to see them enter with this. Oh yeah, and my dad also got a little preview of the music and did a hilarious little jig to this on his front porch, so, yeah, it just had to happen because that’s all I was going think about when this song played.
Bride and Groom Entrance Music
Did I really Rick Roll my wedding? Depends on how you look at it. “Never Gonna Give You Up” is actually mine and my husband’s song! Who knew right?! Where did we come up with that song???? Well, we were watching Family Guy one night and it was when Peter and Lois meet and go to the dance at the country club and it’s a very Back to the Future type of moment. It dawned on me while they’re talking about “songs” that me and my husband didn’t have a “song”. I didn’t know if people even still had “songs”. Brian is starts belting out Rick Astley and my husband lovingly says “that’s it!” What????? Really??? YES!!!! I loved this song since my childhood and he liked it too and it just made sense. 80’s one hit wonder becoming our song? Done…
Anyone who knows me, knows my life long obsession with David Bowie and Labyrinth is REAL. Like, I watch that movie at least 10 times a year, I have a Jarreth doll, I wore out my VHS copy, the soundtrack was the first CD I ever owned, the nickname for my dog is Lady Dinnimus because she looks a little like Sir Dinnimus. She just does… I had also recently turned my husband onto David Bowie as he believes Lazarus is one of the best, trippiest music videos he’s ever seen. It just made sense that our first dance had to be to “As the World Falls Down” by David Bowie.
Father Daughter Dance
Get me right in the feels with a special wedding moment. Here in West by God, a lot of girls choose overly sappy songs like “Butterfly Kisses” or some sad as hell country song that will make most guests slit their wrists with rusty spoons and hang themselves by their burlap table runners. Again, not me! I didn’t pick out my Father Daughter dance song, my daddy did and I think that it has soooo much more meaning that way. His song of choice was “Pretty Maids In a Row” by The Eagles. Honestly, I think he chose this song because we both love The Eagles and because it has lyrics such as “why must we grow up so fast?” “and the story book comes to a close, gone are the ribbons and bows”.
Mother Son Dance
My husband is not big on this kind of stuff, he’s not big on dancing, sappy songs, or anything that is traditional wedding. I played him 100s of songs and the one we settled on was “In My Life” by The Beatles. We’re both fans of The Beatles, and let’s be real, it’s just a good song.
I did do corny with my Cake Cutting song, not going to lie. I like Maroon 5, I like happy sweet poppy goodness. I just think of weddings when I hear “Sugar” by Maroon 5. So I chose this song, it was our cake cutting song, and months later is when my husband tells me he hates Maroon 5…
Most people would choose “Girls Just Want to Have Fun” or “Single Ladies”. I love me some Cyndi Lauper. I hate Beyonce. That’s right. I said it. I think Beyonce is overrated, overhyped, and I just can’t. “Single Ladies” reminds me of being in my 20’s and watching lonely single girls feel better about themselves. Not my cup of tea. Instead, I went with “John Wayne” by Lady Gaga. My mother pointed out that this song really don’t have anything to do with being single or whatever, but I didn’t care. I wanted “Move Bitch” by Ludacris and she told me it was too vulgar. She never really listened to the lyrics to “John Wayne”, but to me it described how I felt when I met my husband. I was sick of the everyday guys because they had been all the same and now I have my wild as hell husband who knows no fear is forever keeping me on my toes. Like when we ended up at the hospital getting his face stitched up on Easter… or when I come home and he’s bought a $550 weight set… constant surprises. All girls want that right?
How can you have a “sexy” moment in a wedding and have it NOT include Prince??? Is it even a wedding if Prince doesn’t play??? I don’t think so. So not only did we have Prince, but it was “Kiss” because of course it was. Do I really even have to explain in depth why you need Prince in your wedding? Didn’t think so..
When planning your wedding, people will tell you it goes by fast, and they’re not kidding. I feel like there was half of a room of people I didn’t get to talk to, my grandfather snuck out at some point and I don’t know when that happened, people will pull you in 5,000 different directions for photos and event moments, and speeches and people don’t want to stay at a wedding for the full 6 hours you paid for the DJ. So you need to take a few moments to yourself and those you love. I did this with a few songs. One was “September” and “Land Down Under” for my oldest nephew because they are inside jokes between the two of us and that child decided he was “too old” to dance at a wedding with his aunt.
Another moment that I loved is when my aunt and I hit the dance floor to “Marry Me” by Dolly Parton. It was the only country song that played and I know it came out of NO WHERE for people so let me explain. My original theme for my wedding was kind of like a Sweet Home Alabama feel. My grandmother, who unfortunately passed before I got married, introduced me to Dolly Parton and we loved watching her movies so Dolly has a special place in my heart.
Another band that I absolutely love is Fleetwood Mac. Stevie Nicks is my inner witchy gypsy soul come to life. I love her version of “Crystal” that she did for Practical Magic and when that song came on, I found my husband and pulled him to the dance floor and made him dance with me because I felt like after all of the photos and little traditional wedding get together times, that we had not spent our reception together at all. I needed my husband and I needed him with my Stevie
So there you have it. My wedding soundtrack. I hope that answers some questions for those who have asked, inspires some who are freaking out over these details, and makes those of you who weren’t there feel like you were.